How Can I Love Myself When I Struggle with Physical Imperfections?


Why do I struggle so with my physical imperfections? I am loved by many and am generally happy, but when I see others who go to great lengths to enhance their appearances I feel so inadequate. How can I better love me for being me and grow old beautifully?

Dearest Tender Heart,

We wish to begin by saying that you are so loved and seen clearly as beautiful from our perspective.

Now it is your perspective of which we are to examine. We have addressed you as Tender Heart, as you are one who is so tuned to energies of the heart and you feel so deeply.

We want you to understand that your current viewing of yourself is only the result of beliefs you hold about you of which are not in resonance with your soul's perspective. As a very sensitive individual you can sense this is an area that you are holding energy in the form of patterns of thought of which do not support your true beauty.

While it is wonderful that you are able to receive the love offered to you through those around you, it is the love and acceptance of self that you feel is lacking, and that this results in your feelings of inadequacy.

We will say to you that it is definitely the lack of love and acceptance of which you are holding within you for yourself that is projected out onto others and mirrored back to you.

Although in your mind you assume your feelings of inadequacy have to do with the viewing of others who appear in your eyes to have enhanced or restated their physical appearances according to their beliefs. Meanwhile you are holding onto old beliefs about you and have not yet chosen to release these beliefs. Therefore you are unable to accept freely others choices because you have not accepted your own.

This for you is very important to understand as you want to be free of judgement and to be allowed to live as you choose. For this to come about you must allow yourself to realize your true beauty and release others from your judgement. Allow others to exercise their right to do as they choose with their bodies.

Realize there is a greater part of you that is aware that you are loved just as you are and that there exists no true need to enhance your appearance, but there is also a part of you who is held by judgement.

You are also aware that although someone may choose to enhance an outer appearance this action does not enhance their inner understanding or shine forth their true beauty. You value the inner beauty, but having not yet grown in this awareness, you are feeling inadequate. Thus, the wanting to expand your consciousness to a deeper understanding of true beauty through acceptance and loving of self. The love of self is achieved through the realization of your divine nature accompanied by the development of deep understanding of greater spiritual truths.

You are a divine being created by Love, through Love, as Love, to be Love. You are working on embracing this knowing and as such you are being made aware of beliefs held in your subconscious that are holding you away from experiencing your true knowing. You see your feeling of inadequacy really has nothing to with anyone or anything outside of you. How you view yourself is reflected in your world. You see others' choices as reasons for you to doubt your value. To measure your worth against appearances or which are false.

This is the beautiful way of which your soul guides you along your path to deeper understanding. You recognize discontent within yourself and wish it to be resolved. You know you do not truly wish to judge anyone and have not realized you're judging yourself harshly.

To approach your current thought with a loving heart and openness to step deeper into acceptance of who you are, we suggest to you that you practice a process of visualization and affirmation. Although there are many ways to work on increasing inner awareness of self-love and acceptance we feel for you these techniques are best at this time.

We want to say to you that the power of your mind is strong and that when you focus your energy and set your intention to achieve and stay with the process success is guaranteed. Now as you move more into alignment with your truth your energy shifts and this results in your reality shifting in the likeness and moving into greater understanding and increasing of acceptance and self-Love.

Know that there is ever greater awareness to be achieved around each bend along the path of life. Your beauty is always present within you and as it is realized by you it is then reflected by you out into your world and mirrored back to you to see and feel.

You are ready to accept yourself as a divine, beautiful expression of the Love that created you and all of the creation. Turn your eyes now away from viewing others and place them upon yourself.

Here is your exercise: Do this in the morning and before falling asleep. (continue for at least 21 days)You may choose different visualizations.

Close your eyes and take three deep breaths feeling each breath as it fills your body with all the air you need to feel satisfied, safe and supported.

Next, call to your mind a vision of beauty so intense that you can feel its essence in your body ( liken this feeling to a sense of awe of the majesty of such beauty). This beautiful imagery may be in the form of your choosing, but the person, place or thing chosen must represent majestic beauty. Sit with this beauty held in your mind for at least 5 minutes - more if you choose. Notice the details. Soak it all in.

Then say to yourself with the power of your knowing it to be so! - I am this Beauty! This Beauty is in me! I am all that is beautiful! I am Love! I am Loving! I am Loved! I accept the Love and Beauty as my Divine Heritage! And so it is!

Open your eyes and take a deep breath. Practice affirming your beauty and hold thoughts within your mind that validate your worth and beauty allowing any thoughts of the contrary to float on by without your attention.

Enjoy your practice.

Your beauty is every increasing!

Much Love,

Voice of Divine Oneness